22. BUT as a Daughter is neither to anticipate, nor contradict the Will of her Parent, fo (to hang the balance even) I muft fay, she is not obliged to force her own, by Marrying where the cannot loves for a negative voice in the cafe is fure as much the Child's right, as the Parent's. It is true, the ought well to examine the grounds of her averfion, and if they prove only Childish and Fanciful, fhould endeavour to correct them by Reafon and fober Confideration if after all the cannot leave to hate, I think the fhould not proceed to Marry. I con fefs I fee not how the can, without a facrilegious Hypocrify, vow fo folemnly to love where the e at the inftant actually abhors: and where the Marry'd ftate is begun with fuch a Perjury, tis no wonder to find it continu'd on at the fame rate, that other parts of the Vow be allo violated; and that the obferve the Negative part no more than the Pofitive, and as little forfake others, as the do's heartily cleave to her Hufband. I fear this is a confequence whereof there are too many fad inftances now extant; for the doubtless, there are fome Virtues which will hold out against all the Temptations their averfions can give, nay, which do at laft even Conquer thofe averfions, and render their Duty as eafy as they have kept it fafe; yet we find there are but fome few that do fo; that it is no infeparable property of the Sex, and therefore it is fure too hazardous an

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experiment for any of them to venture on. 23. AND if they may not upon the more generous motive of Obedience, much less may they upon the worse inducements of Avarice and Ambition; for a Woman to make a Vow to the Man, and yet intend only to Marry his Fortune or his Title, is the bafeft infincerity, and fuch as in any other kind of civil contracts, would not only have the infamy, but the punishment of a Cheat. Nor will it at all fecure them, that in this 'tis only lyable to God's Tribunal: for that is not like to make the doom lefs, but more heavy, it being, as the Apostle witheffes, a fearfull thing to fall into the hands of the living God, Hebr. 1o. 31. In a word, Marriage is God's Ordinance, and fhould be confider'd as fuch; not made a tale to any unworthy defign. And it may well be prefum'd one caufe why fo few Matches are happy, that they are not built upon a right Foundation. Some are grounded upon Wealth, some on Beauty, too fandy bottoms, God knows, to raise any felicity on whilft in the interim, Virtue and Piety, the only folid Bafis for that Superftructure are fcarce ever confiderd. Thus

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fight to fee with what lightness and unconcernedness young People go to that weightieft action of their Lives; that a Marriage-day is but a kind of a Bacchanal, a more licens'd avow'd Revel: when, if they duly confider'd it, 'tis the Hinge upon which their future Life moves, which turns them over to a Happy or Miferable being; and therefore ought to be enter'd upon with the greatest Seriousness and Devotion. Our Church advises excellently in the preface to Matrimony: and I wish they would not only give it the hearing at the time, but make it their ftudy a good while before: yea, and their Marriage vow too; which is fo ftrict and awful a bond, that, methinks, they had need well weigh every branch of it, e're they enter into it; and by the ferventest Prayers implore that God, who is the witnefs, to be their affiftant too in it's performance.

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ND now having conducted the Virgin to the entrance of another State, I muft fhift the Scene, and attend her thither alfo. And here fhe is launch'd into a wide Sea, that one relation of a Wife drawing after it many others for as fhe efpoufes the Man, fo The do's his Obligations allo: and where-ever He by tyes of Nature or Alliance, ows a Reverence or Kindness, fhe is no lefs a debtor. Her Marriage is an adoption into his Family, and therefore fhe is to every branch of it to pay what their Stations there do refpectively require. To define which more particularly, would be a work of more length than profit. I fhall therefore confine the prefent confideration to the relation fhe ftands in to her Husband, (and what is ufually con-comitant with that her Children and her Servants, and fo fhall confider her in the three capacities of a Wife, a Mother, and a Mistress.

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Marriage-vow. And indeed this is the most effential requifite; without this 'tis only a Bargain and Compact, a Tyranny perhaps on the Man's part, and a Slavery on the Woman's. 'Tis Love only that cements the hearts, and where that Union is wanting, 'tis but a fhadow, a carcafs of Marriage. Therefore as it is very neceffary to bring fome degree of this to this ftate; fo tis no lefs to maintain and improve it in it. This is it which facilitates all other duties of Marriage; makes the Yoke fit fo lightly, that it rather pleases than galls. It fhould therefore be the ftudy of Wives to preferve this flame; that, like the Veftal Fire, it may never go out: and to that end carefully to guard it from all thofe things which are naturally apt to exftinguish it; of which kind are all Frowardnefs and little Perverseness of Humour: all Sullen and Morofe Behaviour, which by taking off from the Delight and Complacency of Converfation, will by degrees wear off the Kindness.

3. BUT of all I know nothing more dangerous than that unhappy paffion of Jealoufy, which tho' 'tis faid to be the Child of Love, yet like the Viper, it's Birth is the certain deftruction of the Parent. As therefore they must be nicely careful to give their Husbands no colour, nor the leaft umbrage for it; fo fhould they be as refolute to refift all that occurs to themfelves, be fo far from that bufy Curiofity, that

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